Fed is essential. Informed and supported is best.

Knobheads at the Daily Mail and similar hate mongering publications would have you believe that your biggest issue as a new mother is tyrannical, breast obsessed midwives and mothers who want you to feel like shit if you bottle feed.
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This is a distraction tactic, you see that, right? A well worn strategy, founded in patriarchal, capitalist ideologies that say, “tell the women they can’t trust each other, or themselves, tell them they are under attack, let them believe they need to defend themselves from each other, then they won’t notice the way we oppress them with poor education, underinvestment and lack of support.”
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Don’t fall for it.
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You make a fully informed choice to formula feed- your body, your baby, your choice. I salute you, stand in your power.
You can’t breastfeed and you want to- I’m sorry that dealing with this and I’m glad you have formula available, I applaud you for making the difficult choice to go off plan.
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But come ON. Most of the breastfeeding that doesn’t happen DOES NOT fall into these categories. 5 years of being around birth tells me it happens because women are being failed by a society that chips away at our confidence, at our wisdom, at our instincts, makes birth harder, makes feeding harder, and please notice who benefits here?
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MEGA RICH FORMULA COMPANIES whose conduct is outrageous where the most vulnerable women are concerned. Your midwife isn’t getting a cash bonus if you breastfeed. Your volunteer supporter is getting absolutely fuck all. She’s there because she knows how women struggle through turmoil, knowing that breast milk is optimal, finding herself abandoned when it actually takes a village to breastfeed a baby. She’s a sticking plaster on a broken society that undervalues the fourth trimester recovery period.
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Informed is best. And so few of us are- so conditioned are we over a lifetime that formula is normal, when it increases our risks of breast cancer, to name just one issue. But who cares, right? It’s just women. Like with the contraceptive pill. Couldn’t have men dealing with risky side effects. But for women, it’s fine, let them suck it up.
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I’m absolutely clear that for some mother- baby pairs, formula is the best option, on balance. But I am so sad for the mothers who sink into depression because their instincts and their minds tell them their preference is YES, and the lack of support and education tells them NO. (That was me).
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THIS is the real issue. Other women aren’t judging you. I formula fed one baby and breastfed the other. I was an equally good mother to both babies. I don’t judge myself. Don’t look at each other in anger. Turn your attention to those who would have us believe that we are the problem. When we are kind to each other, when we demonstrate empathy, compassion and understanding in the face of our differences, we tell the misogynists, “Do one”.
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Fed is essential. Each individual mother informed and supported is best. .

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