motherhood mindset mentoring programme

You did a tonne of work prepping for birth, right? Pilates, yoga, NCT, hypnobirthing, book after website after book?

And then your baby was born, and it hit you like 6-9lbs of bricks- this is a fucking transition and a half.

You love it. You hate it. It’s instinctive. Everything you thought you knew is wrong. Each day (and night…) is more than just a rollercoaster. It’s a like someone forgot to strap you in. The peaks are higher than you could have imagined. The lows are despair you’ve never known. You’re winning. You’re struggling. Moment to moment.

It’s overwhelming.

How can it be this way for YOU? You. You’ve always mastered EVERYTHING. You’ve overcome challenges, exceeded expectations, taken control of your life. And now it feels like you’re starting from scratch.

You’re disappointed. Blindsided. Sad. Resentful. Angry. Guilty. Sometimes you’re happy, blissful even. And then back to the other stuff.

I was where you are. I was miserable. Trapped in a version of motherhood that was unfulfilling, and frankly, destroying my emotional wellbeing. My need to do it all exactly right, to nurture every one of their needs and whims, the physical, the emotional, the academic (yep- don’t tell me you haven’t thought about this stuff too) right from the off was my obsession.

I’m all or nothing. Perfect or pointless. Or I was.

I’d hear people say “happy mum, happy baby” and it seemed a way to justify all kinds of stuff which I just didn’t want to do. I didn’t want to escape motherhood for the night, dreading going back to be woken all night, paying the price for the break. I wanted to find fulfilment within it. I wanted to be connected to the experience and know I could find daily joy in meeting my baby’s needs. To find satisfaction in my efforts, rather than running away from my need to give them the best of everything. That was just more anxiety provoking.

I hear it all the time from women- they mention to someone they are depleted, and the response is “get out for a glass of wine with your friends/ dinner with your husband because you need to get away from baby for a bit.” That’s fine if you want to. But this ain’t the answer that many of us are after.

Because we are not content. And there’s only so long you can keep plastering over the cracks.

What if we accept that if we want to parent in a very conscientious way, it’s a lot. Especially when, for many hours, we are doing it alone. But that doesn’t mean it has to feel like crawling through treacle. Let’s recognise the challenges, and address them. And not just with wine/ gin/ cake.

What if you could wake up each day ready to enjoy your little one? What if you could meet their demands with calm compassion time and time again? What if it was easy to do this?

What if you had more energy? Physically, and emotionally.

What if you ended each day full of gratitude, curious to see what rewards tomorrow will bring?

What if you knew they were getting the best of you, but you were getting the best of you too? That there is plenty to go around.

I’m telling you, you can utterly transform your experience of motherhood (and life, actually) with some simple mindset tools.

I have. Completely. It’s no secret that my kids aren’t great sleepers. Here I am 14 months into life as a mother of 2, having been woken in the night almost 3000 times in this time (yep…) and I’ve learnt SO MUCH.

I initially turned to this stuff in order to cope with the sleep deprivation when it hit me hard around 6 months in. I distilled everything I know from 4 years of hypnobirthing, and the thousands of pounds and scores of hours I’ve invested in my professional development, and I found myself with a toolbox that changed my daily life.

I am still technically sleep deprived. We had a 5 hour stretch of sleep for the first time ever the other night and I had some kind of non sexual orgasm about it all day.

Last night he was back up to his usual tricks. And I’m ok. I’m having a great day. I feel positive and capable.

My circumstances haven’t changed much. My perspective has. And as I teach women in prep for birth- how you feel about your experience is everything. And guess what- you get to choose how you feel about motherhood.

If this sounds like a shift you could benefit from, you can get an amazing deal on our Mindset Mentoring for Motherhood online course until Mothers Day. Full price is £99+VAT,  you can take 80% OFF with the code MD18 and get it for £19.80 + VAT.

So what’s included?

  • Understanding Mindset Work- what it means, why it matters, how it works
  • Affirmations & Manifestation- the power of the stories you tell yourself
  • Energy- simple ways to increase yours
  • Gratitude- how to access more happiness
  • BONUS CONTENT- relaxation audios, tools to be instantly calmer, wallpapers

If you’ve read this far, you are most probably just like me. Someone who enjoys feeling in control of her own life. It’s one of the hardest things about motherhood- the surrender. I will help you to reframe your experience by challenging you to put these tools into practice. Taking responsibility for my own choices, and my own internal environment has been MASSIVE for me. This is how we regain autonomy over our lives.

Don’t get me wrong- sometimes I still lose my shit with my kids. It’s healthy, and human to live through a spectrum of emotions. But what has changed is that I do not dwell in that space. I step out of it pretty quickly- because it does not make me feel good. And what happens when we don’t feel good? We don’t mother like we want to. And then? The guilt. And getting off that spiral can be tough.

It feels good to be around women who get it, right? That’s why, alongside the teaching platform, I’m creating for you a closed Facebook group. In this space, you’ll get solidarity for sure, but that’s not all. I’ll be inviting some of my expert colleagues to deliver some additional content for you on the more practical side of parenting. Stuff like babywearing, baby massage, movement (for you and baby), feeding, and yes, the holy grail- sleep.

All of this stuff can make a real difference- again I echo what I tell women in their birth prep- knowledge is power. We feel calmer (and back in control) when we are informed.

I’ll be on hand to check in with how you’re doing with the content, checking your understanding and challenging you to recognise your progress. I’ll also share my own stories and real time motherhood stuff.

So what’s it to be? Will you keep drifting? Or will you take the reins?

Every day I tell myself, “I grew 2 humans and they came out of my body. I am basically God.” If I think I can’t cope now, I need to have a word with myself.

6 months before launching this course, if my husband was going to be an hour late home from work, it was the end of the world. I could not imagine getting through that last hour. Right now, he’s away for 3 days and I’m fine. I’m actually enjoying having my children to myself. Again, it doesn’t mean I’m immune to irritation or frustration. But I’ve learnt that, for the most part, I can let it slip away, and choose to feel another way.

There’s nothing fluffy about this stuff- it’s positive psychology, it’s biology, it makes absolute sense.

It’s time to invest in you- in your happiness, and by default, in your little one(s). It turns out happy mum does mean happy baby, but in a much more profound way than people think.

You can grab your spot here. The content is yours forever, to work through at a pace that suits you.

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  • This is EXCITING. Our clients will now receive 15% off @ettaloves ✨ And have you ever seen such a gorgeous muslin? They support babies’ sensory development and they feel SO GOOD.
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I’ll be doing a Facebook live soon with Jen to learn about how these creations came to be ❤️💕
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Terms- collection from @do.it.like.a.mother_hq or Jen @ettaloves (central Leigh On Sea).
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Clients- DM me for how to access discount. .
We love to give you added value gals, tell us what else would make your day and I’ll call it in. .
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#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #ettaloves #muslingame #sensorydevelopment #babylove #newborn #fourthtrimester #babyshower #bumpgift #bumpdate #hypnobirthing #community #supportsmall #shopindependent #collaborate #leighonsea #chalkwell #southend #essex
  • Yesterday I saw my husband, and hundreds of others- young, old, fit as a fiddle, terminally ill, optimally kitted out and in fancy dress- run a marathon.
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I stood cheering my head off, enchanted by the achievement despite being weighed down by an enormous toddler in the pouring rain. The inspiration was thick in the air, and the rain couldn’t wash that magic away.
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This morning, my lovely friend Gemma @theseashack called me out when I told her, “I couldn’t even run a mile”. More than that, she told me even though she’s run 6 miles up to now, she knows she COULD take on the big M. .
She owned her potential, claimed her power, and stopped me in my limiting tracks like ✨❤️💫🙌🏻🤩👏🏻 because who are we to say what we could not do before we’ve tried? To deny the possibilities available to us, and box ourselves into our existing experience is a waste of our potential- a trap that I wouldn’t fall into for my biz, and yet there I was re my physical capacity.
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It’s ok if I never run a marathon- it’s ok if I never even try, because it’s not important to me, and it may not be to you. But what IS important to you?
In what ways would it serve you to challenge your beliefs about what’s possible for you? Where do you wish you could dare to dream? .
An empowered birth, a positive experience of mothering, a thriving business that reflects your purpose, fulfilling friendships, free use of your voice... whatever it is, notice that it starts with you believing it’s available to you. Until then, you could never do that. You’ve simply got to change your mind to begin... 💕💪🏻💫
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#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #theseashack #mindsetiseverything #mindsetofgreatness #womeninlens #womeninbizz #womeninbusinessrock #womeninspirewomen #motheringlikeaboss #mothering #possibilitiesareendless #infinitepossibilities #thinkbetter #thinkgreater #positivebirth #birthpositive #birthbetter #bettterbirth #yesyoucan #friendship_goals #gratitudeattitude
  • This is me having a good think. Love a good think. Sometimes, despite all the energy I devote to my personal growth, I find myself fricking weary.
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Weary of the resistance to change, or acknowledgement, weary of the ego driven responses to the big problems, and the resulting power struggles, weary in the face of the scale of the work to be done and the apathy surrounding the issues.
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Then I remember- I’m not alone. I love to think about how I can change the world for my kids and everyone else’s, it’s incredibly motivating, although sometimes it can feel SUCH a responsibility. 
It’s such a relief to connect with souls who see things the important things the way you do, and who are speaking UP. .
So if you’re feeling the weight of all you know, look around. Who can you be shoulder to shoulder with? Your purpose (and mine) is to make a contribution- you don’t have to do it all. .
Feeling solidarity with @chloe_do.it.like.a.mother @birthbetter @positivelybirthing @intheclubmidwifery @lionheart_hypnobirthing @tellmeagoodbirthstory @motheringmattersuk @embracebirth_ 
this week ✨
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Thanks you beauties for inspiring me to keep speaking the truth💪🏻💫
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📷 @photography_by_petra .
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  • Language matters in ALL areas of our lives, but when it comes to birth, when we are feeling vulnerable and primal, the effects can last a lifetime. .
It’s not unusual for second time Mums to share with me something that was said to them first time round that either lifted them or wounded them.
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I’m so on board with this #everywordcounts campaign from @birthbetter 👌🏻✨
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Head over to their feed and join in with the campaign and make birth better. Reinforce the value of the brilliant words you’ve heard, share what you wish they’d never said. .
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#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #makebirthbetter #birthbetter #betterbirth #birthrights #positivebirth #birthpositive #feminism #tellmeagoodbirthstory
  • "I want every girl to know that her voice can change the world,” — Malala Yousefzai
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#internationaldayofthegirl2018 #internationaldayofthegirl #internationaldayofthegirlchild .
#feminist #feminism #girltalk #thegirltalk #malalayousafzai #malala #equality #education #empowerment #connection #raiseyourvoice #useyourvoice #useyourvoiceforgood #womeninspirewomen #mindsetofgreatness #strongertogether #mothering
  • It’s crazy how limited we can be by our conditioning. We find ourselves with a passion, and we assume the only ways to channel that energy are the ways everyone else is doing it. .
How freeing to realise that there are literally no rules. It’s been a privilege to see that realisation unfolding in someone I hugely admire this week.
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Seeing her notice that the status quo is not working FOR HER, seeing that her impact could be exponentially bigger if she let go of “normal ways of doing things” and going for it.
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Gals you can do whatever you like. It’s your life- no one is coming to rescue you.
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#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #doitfortheprocess #purposedrivenlife #purposedriven #womeninspirewomen #mindsetiseverything #mindsetofgreatness #speakup #speakyourtruth #liveyourtruth #alignment #beyourbiggestfan #beyourbestself #doityourway #womeninframe #womeninbizz
  • One minute you have no plans for the New Moon. Next thing you know you’re gonna be having dinner with @chloe_do.it.like.a.mother ready to receive inspiration for your future endeavours ✨❤️ ta universe. .
Check out Chloe’s livestream in our community group (link in bio) delivering today’s FREE MINI ANTENATAL CLASS with Sarah from @escanutrition 👌🏻 mega midwife + fab dietitian = great content on nutrition in pregnancy. .
What you up to tomorrow eve all? Whatever it is, set those intentions under that moon 💫
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📷 @photography_by_petra .
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#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #womeninspirewomen #mindsetiseverything #mindsetofgreatness #values #midwifelife #leighonsea #upminster #essex
  • I cannot get enough of @mariannewilliamson right now. This little snippet is giving me all the feels.
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I’m not thinking of mistakes like forgetting to buy avocados 🥑🤦🏻‍♀️ (devastating as this is).
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I mean when we act or speak in ways that don’t align with our values. We may feel shame, we may hate ourselves a bit, and that just keeps us from getting back on course.
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Allow yourself to mis-step in the way you would give your child permission to learn along the way. “That didn’t feel good, let’s choose another action next time”. These huge opportunity for growth in our moments of uggghhh 😔😳 choose to embrace the lesson and get back to who you really are- a fricking gorgeous expression of perfectly imperfect creation. .
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#doitlikeamother #doitlikeamotherhood #doitfortheprocess #womeninspirewomen #mindsetofgreatness #mindsetiseverything #values #alignment #rememberwhoyouare #mindsetiseverything #mindsetcoach #womeninbusinessrock #purposedrivenlife #purposefulliving #learnandgrow #winorlearn
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