Hypnobirthing. It’s quite a loaded word and brings with it a LOT of misconceptions. Today I’m talking about one of the most widespread misnomers and telling you why a hypnobirth is NOT about avoiding all the drugs and giving birth naturally– it’s actually about something much greater than that…
When I gave birth to my daughter 2 years ago the experience left me a totally changed person (read about it here). I was full to the brim with self-confidence and I felt like “if I can do that- I can do ANYTHING!” I’m not going to lie- it was a great feeling.
Now I knew that that was because of lots of reasons- the way I was looked after by amazing midwives, the way I was surrounded by 3 incredible birth partners, the fact that everything that happened was my choice. Loads of things contributed to the whole experience being incredible.
The thing is, although I knew there were all these amazing things, I couldn’t help but have this nagging feeling that I felt that way purely because I had the traditional hypnobirth- no drugs, no interventions and born at home. I knew that nagging feeling wasn’t true. I knew that it was totally possible to feel the way I felt in other circumstances too. I knew that mums could definitely feel that way after an elective c-section or an induced birth. And that was what I always preached. But still there was that nagging feeling.
Then I had an experience that showed me that that nagging feeling was indeed the pile of crap I knew it to be.
I had an ectopic pregnancy (click here if you want to find out more). I had to have surgery to save my life and simultaneously end the pregnancy. It wasn’t easy and it wasn’t how I had pictured anything. But I did it. I made that decision and I faced some of my biggest fears that day. And by doing so I’ve got that feeling again. That feeling of “if I can do that, then I can do anything”.
An experience that couldn’t have been further from what we wanted and yet there’s that’s wonderful feeling again.
That’s the feeling I want for you. That’s the feeling I want every mum to feel as she enters into the journey of motherhood. And I know that whatever type of birth you have, you can feel it too. I know that because I’ve experienced it myself, I know that because of the wonderful stories I hear from the mums that do our courses (read about some of them here) and I know that because it’s what I truly believe in my heart.
So, hypnobirthing- it’s definitely not about refusing all drugs, you haven’t failed if you don’t have a home birth and you can certainly use it for whatever birth you have. Feeling a little more interested in it now??
If you really want to get on board and get that feeling too then please do book onto one of our courses in Southend or Upminster. Or if you’re not sure what it’s all about, then send us an email, ask us anything, we’re always happy to help. We are ALL on a mission to make motherhood better- and that starts with a good birth.
All the love,